How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become an empowerment and well-being coach?

 

To answer this question, it is probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to gain confidence, self-esteem and heal from life shattering situations, toxic relationships, and come back better and stronger than ever before.

I had finally left my fiancée. With my wedding date set and dress picked, I found out he had been seeing other women – often right under my nose. I think deep down I always knew, and in hindsight, the signs were clear (I went to our pre-wedding counselling sessions alone!) but in the moment, I was so desperate for love that I kept hanging on. I was so hung up on the life I was being told to lead and trying to fill the roles my family and community put upon me. I never felt good enough, smart enough, lovable, important, valued, or pretty enough. Nothing in my life was working. I thought that he was going to save me and make everything all right. I had spent years feeling completely miserable in my life, nothing ever worked out for me. It seemed that I was doomed right from the get go. So when I met him I thought, ‘This is it, I’m done suffering! He was going to make everything ok, I would feel normal and my life was going to work out after all.’ WRONG!

After years of struggling in the relationship I always had a nagging voice that told me there was something very wrong going on. ‘Trust your gut, something is not right here.’ I continued to be in denial and blaming myself for being so insecure. Red flags were everywhere. This guy was not being good to me and was not the kind of man I wanted, but my desperation to be in a relationship and the fantasy of it all working out was so real to me. The pain and fear of not getting the life I wanted and so desperately needed seemed so far away. In my head I knew it was wrong so why could I not I let him go?? Being logical was not changing the way I was feeling. The fear of leaving him was so big that my emotions were keeping me stuck. One day I found the number of his other girlfriend and I called her. After we had talked she expressed to me that he had promised her all the same things he promised me – the marriage, everything. WOW! Talk about feeling stupid! The shame and the hurt was so over whelming but at the same time I felt an odd sense of relief; I finally had come out of my denial and I left him for good.

As the time went on, I began to feel completely broken: spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I was so full of shame and anger at myself, not only for allowing this relationship to go on for so long and for allowing a man to treat me this way but for feeling like I had disappointed my family and again have them wonder what was wrong with me for not being able to stay in a relationship. Then one day, I had a Scarlett O’Hara, Gone with the Wind moment. As God as my witness, I made the decision that I would never go through anything like that EVER again. I would never feel desperate, shameful, guilty, not good enough, weak, or miserable in my life.

As my journey of self-discovery continued, I was always searching for my purpose and my passion. What is this all for? Why did I suffer so much in my life? Why was it that everything I wanted seemed none existent for me? Why was life so damn hard on me? People would say everything happens for a reason. Really?? What the hell do I need all these lessons for? Have I not had enough of life’s lessons? What am I supposed to learn from all this?

I paid attention to my thoughts and feelings. I stayed still and listened to my inner voice. I had ignored my inner voice and my gut feelings so many times in the past. From now on, I was going to listen and trust my gut.

I knew I had to focus my attention on myself. I had to grieve the relationship that I had so wanted and also grieve for the life I didn’t get. This was the beginning of my journey to heal. I went to the gym, I found amazing allies, found a mentor, and read great self help books. I healed past relationships, worked on understanding myself, and came to understand how my experiences had affected me. I healed my wounds and grew stronger, gained confidence and self esteem. I was at peace with myself and was truly happy with the woman I had become.

I paid special attention to my dreams and stayed very much in tune with the universe and the messages we receive. One night, I had a dream that shook my soul. I was standing, looking at the Lion’s Gate Bridge in Vancouver. Suddenly, the bridge broke in half. Upon waking, I was so mesmerized. I began visiting the bridge as often as I could. Even pictures of it could stir me. I was convinced that I would find the rest of my life or receive a message at the other end of the bridge. All the learning and growing I had done as an individual had to be leading me in a new direction. I knew I had to walk across that bridge both physically and metaphorically.

I told a friend all about my dream, and he offered to take me there without hesitation. We arrived at the bridge, and I headed north alone. As I walked, I questioned what the message was. What was it about this bridge that affected me? I knew the answer had to be there. As I reached the north side of the bridge, traffic became hectic, I could not work out how to get to the other side and walk south? As I looked around there it was, an underpass!

How amazing! Here was the first lesson of the bridge - If you look and ask, you will find a way.

Returning to the surface and continuing to walk, I asked the questions, what does this mean and what am I here for? A strong sense of knowing came over me, ‘Take what you’ve learned in your life and teach it to others.’

(The friend who drove me to the bridge is now my husband of 25 years)

After years of enjoying my new life with my husband and two beautiful boys, I decided it was time to move on and start a career as a counselor and life skills instructor.

I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to teaching women and men who feel lost, confused, or hopeless. People who suffer from low self-esteem, have no confidence, are broken and unsure of themselves. I want to help them learn how to clean up their past and skyrocket their confidence and self esteem.

I have worked with many private clients, couples, and families and have run various workshops and spoken in front of countless groups. I have written a book and I am living the life I have always dreamed of. I have a wonderful family, a career that is in-line with my passion and my purpose! I travel. Life is good!

I have also created: ‘Take This Life and Live it! 90 Days to BOLD, BEAUTIFUL and STRONG YOU!’ A series of seven important and powerful inner emotional strength building steps every woman and man needs to apply to start blowing those negative self beliefs out of the water and move on to an empowered, loving and happy life.

 

Who are your clients?

I work with people just like you who don’t know what they need to do to get off the rollercoaster of never ending bad relationships, a job they don’t enjoy, a life full of disappointments and struggles.

  • People who are struggling with guilt and shame
  • People who are tired of difficult relationships
  • People who are lonely, angry, and sad
  • People who are sick and tired and want change
  • Divorce survivors
  • Co dependant people who are tired of living for others
  • People who want more control in their lives

 

What makes you different from other empowerment coaches?

Although we will occasionally touch upon time management and other ‘wellness coach-y’ things, you have me as a confidence and inner emotional wellness expert and consultant. I work on the inner and outer principals for success and from an organic and spiritual perspective. What that means to you is that you get a wise-sage-meets-kick-butt authentic coach, life skills instructor and counsellor who has done her work. I am also very spiritual and I don’t pretend to hide it. Because I am delicate, you will always get a straight to the point, quick and honest response from me.

I am concerned with how to get your life in balance fast, how to help you STOP wasting time and energy where it does not belong and get you focused on building the life you really want. You may not like what I have to tell you – but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth. The truth about what is standing in the way of your success and how to get rid of it FAST so you can start getting results in record time. I have a deep connection with my clients and I know where to look to find what is keeping you stuck! My clients tell me I translate feelings very well.

 

What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?

The 90 Days to Bold, Beautiful and Strong You!’ was created for people who are absolutely excited and dead serious about breaking out of their rut, breaking through resistance and ending what I call the ‘spinning anxiety syndrome’ – it means not running around all day long, beating yourself up anymore asking,  ‘Why can’t I be better and do better than this in my life?’

The program was created for you to put systems in place within a few months (sometimes weeks!), which will lead you to better understand yourself, move through the barriers that have been keeping you stuck, build confidence and self esteem so that you can begin to live the life of your dreams!

Being a highly motivated go getter myself, I’m known to work best with other highly motivated go getters, people who are committed to their success no matter what, who are super-ready to get going and want to know exactly what steps to take to become strong, independent and in control of their lives. My clients often tell me – “Just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” Consider what you will do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to be successful. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking, with full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal: confidence and control of your life in record time.

 

For what type of personality is my program NOT going to work?

Please know I’m very selective in who I work with and I cherry-pick my clients, choosing to (gently) turn away people who are not suited for my programs and won’t get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It would not be fair to them.) ‘The 90 Days to BOLD, BEAUTIFUL and STRONG YOU’ Program is NOT for those who are looking for a quick fix, are not willing to take responsibility for themselves are not committed to making changes in themselves or are looking to change someone else. The program will not work for those who may be consumed with other parts of their lives that will keep them from being 100% invested in making the changes they need to make in themselves.

I choose NOT to work with (without exception) the whiner or the chronic skeptic, as well as individuals who consistently make excuses for not getting their assignments done or challenging every aspect of the program. If you are one of these people, I gently and respectfully ask that you not call and I hope you understand why. We will probably just not work well together and I would not want you to waste your time or money. Is that fair?

When you are ready, call me and we will get you started. (I’m in no rush and will be here when you need me.)

Commitment unlocks the door of imagination, allows vision and gives us the right stuff to turn our dreams into reality. - James Womack

What exactly is ‘The Bold, Beautiful and Strong You’ system and what does it include?

‘Bold, Beautiful and Strong You’ begins with understanding your true value, where your power really comes from, how to manifest what you want (including more money), creating powerful intentions that get you results. Here is what the system gets you to do:

  1. Visions and Goals

We examine where you are in your life and get CRYSTAL clear about your intentions, what you want to experience in your personal life and career. Before you can manifest what you want, you have to KNOW what you want. You’ will learn the difference between setting goals and intentions.

 

  1. Release Your Inner Resistance

Mostly, you might already know what you need to be doing but yet are still struggling in procrastination, feeling stuck and spinning in circles. You will be learning proven techniques for breaking through your inner resistance, self doubt, fear, anxiety and all of that “stuff” that keeps you playing small so that you can begin taking action in your life.

  1. Transformational Self-care

Taking time for you, putting yourself first. Stop being at the back of the bus. Incorporate new loving habits that will nourish your soul, inspire your spirit, and transform your belief system.

Begin to own your own value.

 

  1. Removing Old, Unresolved Patterns that No Longer Serve You

We will begin to understand that old patterns are very present within our lives and often come from negative emotions like fear, anger and worry. Negative experiences that can hold you back often come from family, ex-partners or ex-lovers or someone you don’t even know.  We form these negative experiences with anyone we have had an intense encounter with.

 

Whatever trauma or main event happened in your life will leave a mark in your energy and if it is negative, it can act as a “kink” in your future manifestation if you don’t clear them.

  1. Set your Boundaries

Developing strong internal boundaries keeps you from taking responsibility for what other people do or say. Similarly, since you’re accountable for your feelings and actions, you don’t blame others. When you’re blamed, if you don’t feel responsible, you say I don’t take responsibility for that.

 

  1. Get Clear about your Values

We will identify what you believe is most important and valuable in your life, and become aware of how your behaviors reflect these values.

 

  1. Celebrate!

We will focus a lot of our time celebrating wins and creating the new habit of celebrating what is showing up for you. What you focus on expands and everything you are learning and experiencing is of your creation. You will feel empowered and excited about the future as you consistently produce results over and over again! Celebrate what shows up so you can pave the way for even more success!

 

In addition to these 7 categories, you will learn hundreds and hundreds of things to help you follow your heart, get out of your own way and into passionate action to build your dreams and live the lifestyle you have always wanted, These are the steps of ‘The BOLD, BEAUTIFUL and STRONG You!’ that I’ve created after working with unfulfilled people to help them get ahead.

Does this really work?

Yes! The result of our work is an approach to shifting your mindset, to break through barriers and consistently boost your confidence and self esteem. We will break through internal roadblocks and fear, so that with time, and consistency, you will be in tune with your intuition and make choices that will lead you to the life of your dreams.

 

Testimonials

Thank you Francesca for your expertise in helping me to not only see what was going on around me but more importantly, to understand what was going on within me. You helped me with so many aspects of my life, by helping me to view my challenges in a different way. The benefit for me was feeling more in control of my life. You truly have a gift to share – that of understanding human nature and caring for others.

~ K. Scott

 

Throughout my life, I have faced emotionally debilitating issues like anxiety and low self-esteem. Through just a few sessions with Francesca, we solved a number of my problems, allowing me to enjoy life more. In a comfortable atmosphere, she takes a friendly, personable approach at teaching and reinforcing life-altering lessons. The only thing I wish I could do right now is to have seen her sooner. For anyone who is seriously considering counselling for themselves, look no further; Francesca is the best!

~ P.D

 

You can expect to:

  • Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone)
  • Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies so you can take action and start living your passion and purpose with ease
  • Health benefits living stress free
  • Let go of trauma in the body
  • Create new standards for yourself
  • Get crystal clear on what your internal roadblocks are and practices for consistently moving past them
  • Stay accountable to your goals and achieve them
  • Breakout in creativity
  • Have more ease and grace in your life
  • Get proven techniques you can apply right away
  • Fill your gas tank and learn how to self-nurture
  • Receive specific tools for you to use immediately
  • Create greater exposure and visibility for your life successes
  • How to create the life you want
  • Truly love the version of yourself that shows up to play this game called life
  • Have big breakthroughs and ‘ah ha’ moments
  • Reaching for your passions in life
  • Creating new standards for yourself
  • Create healthy boundaries
  • Feel empowered and excited about the future
  • Fall in love with yourself
  • Develop more compassion for yourself and others
  • Connect with your intuition
  • Feel excited and empowered about the future

 

How quickly can I expect results?

That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts. Some clients are ready to go and begin building their dream lifestyle in a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on how far along you are in your journey, if you have a network of balcony people in place to help you leverage yourself.

How can I guarantee myself that I will ignite my passions, feel empowered, and ready to build my dreams in record time?

Do all of your homework. Be totally committed to your success. Understand that this is a process, a proven one that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of  ‘The BOLD, BEAUTIFUL AND STRONG YOU!’ have successfully defined their passions, broken through their roadblocks, acknowledged and leveraged their intuition in much less time than they would have on their own AND have and are living their “dream” lifestyle.

 

Francesca, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?

Congratulations on making a decision for success! I’m happy to work with you to achieve your business goals... The best way to work with me is in my ‘90-day Bold Beautiful and Strong You!’

Here are some of the results you can expect...

  • Have big breakthroughs and ah ha moments
  • Reach for your passions in life
  • Create new standards for yourself
  • Have more ease and grace in your life
  • Create healthy boundaries
  • Breakout in creativity
  • Feel empowered and excited about the future
  • Fill your gas tank and learn to self-nurture
  • Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone).
  • Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies so you can take action and start living your passion and purpose with ease.
  • Get crystal clear on what your internal roadblocks are and practices for consistently moving past them
  • Stay accountable to your goals and achieve them
  • Get proven techniques you can apply right away
  • How to create the life you want
  • Truly love the version of yourself that shows up to play this game called life
  • Feel empowered and excited about the future
  • Fall back in love with yourself
  • Develop more compassion for yourself and others
  • Connect with your intuition and leverage it

 

OK, I am ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions, can I call you?

Good, sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future! Click Here to schedule your FREE Breakthrough Session now! Or if you have a couple of questions, just email me at mailto:support@francescatomas.com and I’ll be happy to walk you through the different options to see which one will be the very best for you. I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honored to be the one to help you. Let’s get going!

The sky is the limit to living the life you desire and dream of!

Francesca